August 17, 2020
Josh Waitzkin argues that we internalise an external locus of control in our childhood. The first way is our parent’s language around the weather:
“It’s bad weather. We can’t go outside!” vs. “It’s good weather. We can go outside!”
“We’re externally reliant on conditions being perfect in order to be able to go out and have a good time.”
Josh flips this on its head. He insists he and his young son never miss a single storm, rain, or snow. They always go outside and have fun together.
His son now says to him: “Look Dad, it’s such a beautiful rainy day”. Contrast this with the misery that sits in most households when it’s grey, wet and cold outside.
Josh uses the weather as a tool to teach his son about having an internal locus of control.
He talks more about the idea and it’s application in his book The Art of Learning. Well worth reading.
“I began to realize how important it was to be an enthusiast in life…. if you are interested in something, no matter what it is, go at it at full speed ahead. Embrace it with both arms, hug it, love it and above all become passionate about it. Lukewarm is no good. Hot is no good either. White hot and passionate is the only thing to be.”